This may come as a surprise

I HATE the Utah Humane Society. And when I say hate, I really really mean it. Now, don't get your panties in a twist. I am a firm supporter of adoption. I have two cats that were adopted and we also adopted our dog. And my parents have adopted animals our entire life. I am always for adoption. But the Utah Humane Society... well if I had sweaty balls I would tell them to lick them.

After I had Cleo for a few months I decided it was a good idea to get another kitten so she had someone to play with. I of course went straight to the Utah Humane Society. I found an adorable little kitten, spent close to an hour playing with. I then spent close to three hours waiting and going through an interview process (where they ask way too many completely insignificant questions). Then another 30 minutes of waiting to only hear "Oh, we're sorry... there is actually a wait list for this kitten". WHAT. My answer "This is ridiculous, you better be very happy that I don't have a child with me." Because how would I have explained to little Susy or Tommy that the cat they had fallen in love with and spent half the day with wasn't going to he theirs?

When my sister wanted to adopt she went to the Country shelter because I told her under no circumstances was she allowed to go to the humane society. She walked out and hour later with her cat.

The following story is something that has unnerved me to such an extent that I am thinking of writing a letter (and it didn't even happen to me).

A guy at my office got his daughter a cocker spaniel puppy. The next day they had to rush his daughter (I think she is 5) to the ER. She was in the ICU with what the doctors thought was an allergic reaction to the dog. He did the only thing he could do, he sadly gave the puppy to the Humane Society. He knew that they would be able to find a purebred cocker spaniel puppy a home in no time. The next day the doctor's discovered what was wrong with his daughter and it wasn't the dog. He went back to the Humane Society first thing and explained the situation, along with a note from the doctor. They refused to give him the dog back.

So a girl that works with me heard the story and her and her husband thought "well we want another dog". So she goes to the Humane Society the next day and goes through all the same crap I did. Because the dog had only been there for two days they weren't able to release her right away. So two days later, after not hear back, she called and finally was able to get ahold of someone. The person at the Humane Society said "we noticed on your applications that you have a daughter". Yes they do, she is two years old "well there is someone here who is very familiar with the breed and say they are known for biting young children, they aren't a family friendly breed". WHAT?

Okay. My blood was boiling. I don't think I've been this upset in forever. I had a cocker growing up, my grandma had multiple cockers (my mom grew up with them). I have a cocker now. My parents have a cocker. Their cocker was my BFF's old cocker and he had cockers growing up.

Cocker spaniels are some of the best family dogs ever. They are extremely loyal and loving.

My friend is going to write the humane society a letter. Because I guarantee you that someone there wanted the dog.

So for those of you who are thinking of adopting an animal, please don't go to the Humane Society. Check out the Salt Lake County Shelter and the many city shelters around.

Thanks to you, a little late

The other day I was having a conversation with someone I work with. She was telling me about all the craziness that is her family, all the drama that are her friends.

I had to step back for a minute. It is times like these that I am reminded that I have a lot to be thankful for. There are very few people that are blessed with the family dynamic that I have. How many people can live with a sibling at my age? How many people consider their sister their best friend? How many people look forward to spending time with their parents? (Unless of course it is shopping with my mom, I never look forward to that). I have a kick ass family. Sometimes I am just reminded of how that isn't the norm. Which is too bad. I wish everyone could have the same.

I also have some of the best friends in the world. And I can appreciate that. There was a time when the friends I had weren't that great. The BFF is fantastic. We were driving home from the airport (his flight was late, again) and some how we got on the conversation of significant others meeting people. "You are always the first person they meet, then my brother... if they can past those two tests they are golden". It is the same for me... You meet the BFF first, if you pass that test, then you meet the family. Then there is Rexy Poo. I am rarely prouder of anyone. She has had some very hard times, but like me, chose not to dwell and become a victim, but be a survivor.

Then there is the BF, who is just fantastic. He doesn't put up with my random shit (I try to work with him on that, but he seems to be quite stubborn). He makes me laugh, and he makes my stomach flutter.

So that is what I am thankful for, the wonderful people in my life. I am glad after all of these years I am able to surround myself with people who compliment me and add to my life.

Oh yeah... I rarely have naughty dreams... rarely. So when they come on they are usually quite random and suprising... this one was the most random and surprising ever. Tisk Tisk.

God hates me, and maybe Jesus too

I hope everyone had a good Thanksgiving. Mine was fantastic, even though I lost the game of dominoes. And don't go getting all jealous. Yes my family plays dominoes. It is fantastic.

Why is it that certain exes follow me around? I mean I have one ex in my life that I am fine with, it is by choice... but the annoying ones that kind of just show up..

Dear god, please quit sending reminders of my past in the form of losers to me. I am aware that I made some poor decisions in my quest to prove things to myself and others. Is it necessary to send Reagan, the bigamist to my desk? Can't we just let bygones be bygones?

And Jesus, talk to your dad. Remind him that you love me. Kay? Thanks!

Hugs and kisses,
Me

At least I look kick ass today.

And the conversation since you asked so nicely

Reagan: I thought that was you, how are you.
Me: Great.
Reagan: Oh, well I'm doing good too.
Me: That's great
Reagan: Wow, you're just too talkative
Me: Oh I'm sorry, were we going to pretend to like each other? I thought we covered this when you stalked me at Beans
Reagan: I didn't stalk you. I just saw your car there
Me: So you stalked me
Reagan: I just wanted to say hi and see how you are
Me: Well that has been accomplished. Now if you don't mind I am rather busy this morning.
Reagan: God you always were a bitch
Me: Only to fuckers.
Reagan: You were the one that broke my heart
Me: We dated for like two months, give it up. Can't you go find one of your multiple wives and cry on her shoulder. Seriously this isn't the time nor is it the place. In fact this conversation doesn't need to be had.
Reagan: Maybe I will stop by your place and we can talk then.
Me: Do it. I'd love to test out my mace, I haven't had the chance to use it in so long.
Reagan: Like you would
Me: Try me
Reagan: Well I guess I should leave
Me: Probably
Reagan: Talk to you later
Me: Probably not

Yes... Claire got a huge kick out of it

And this is why

Me: I know you are a closet lover of ANTM
BF: Not even close, I have a better chance of marrying my ex-wife
Me: Which one?
Me: Oh SNAP
BF: At least I divorced them in a timely manner
BF: almost a whole presidental term went by for yours
Me: Nice

And we are hillarious

Tisk Tisk

Did I mention that yesterday after realizing that I am finaly free I got myself a little present? Well I did. It was a toss up. I really thought about finishing my tattoo. The first part of it I got done after I ended my marriage, the second part after I healed from what happened... it seemed fitting to get the final part done as I closed the chapter. And I will. But that isn't my present to me. This is



And I noticed that the picture makes my fingers look fat... which they aren't. I love the ring and feel it was money well spent. I love it more than my wedding ring, which I also paid for. Fancy that.

And tisk tisk to whoever is using threats and violence against the LDS church. I am infuriated with the church's involvement, but intimidation and acts of violence are not the answer. You have made yourself look worse then they have and given the entire cause a bad name.

Time to celebrate

Once I am no longer knocking on deaths door. Has anyone else contracted this nasty cold? I am pretty use to being sick, so it takes a lot to knock me out. This one has knocked me out cold.

But.... onto the celebration

As of October 28th, 2008... I am officially a single woman. I can now take my last name back, legally. It is such a wonderful feeling, knowing that the last tie I had to the worst part of my life is over.

Yes it took a long time... but it is so worth it. I was wondering if I ever actually would be divorced.

Thanks to all of those who have said we need to celebrate... you are right. I could throw one huge party... but I think I will let all of you take me out on your own. Hey.... three nights of drinking vs one... I'm not stupid.

Cept... No red wine. ;)

Equal Rights are not Different Rights

It wasn't too long ago that this nation went through the extreme process of desegregating. After years of seeing blacks as second class citizens this country finally made the decisions that "all men are created equal" didn't mean all men accept for those black ones.

So why is it that today, in our supposed informed times, we are going through the same type of segregation?

The passing of Prop 8 in California was much publicized. And for those of you that aren't aware... it wasn't the first such ban, nor will it likely be the last. But it was the first time that Utah's own LDS church became publically involved. The church solicited it's members to make donations.

Now the laws on being tax exempt actually do allow this, what isn't allowed is the endorsement of a specific candidate running for office. So what the church did is legally okay.

Funny thing about laws, they may make things legal, but they can't make them right.

Thursday evening my dear friend said to me "I am sick of all this news on prop 8, it passed, get over it". Now... I was surprised to hear this from her, because her father is gay. But I know where she is coming from. How defeating must it be to know that there are a majority of people in a state that feel that her father doesn't deserve the same rights as she? My response was that you should fight, never stop fighting.

What the church did was morally wrong. In their attempt to keep the "moral integrity" of marriage they solicited a campaign of hate. A campaign of bigotry. They asked their members to deny people of the same rights that they experience. Thank you LDS church for showing your true colors. In addition thanks to all the other congregations that are attempting to keep the sanctity of marriage. You all of shown exactly why it is that I don't attend church.

Sanctity of marriage, now if that isn't an oxy-moron in this day I don't know a better one. How is allowing two men (or two women) who have been together for a decade the right to marry breaking this? When we allow people to get married drunk in Vegas, and annul it 48 hours later? Where is the sanctity in that? Or how about the marriages between a man and a woman that end after months or even a year? I can say, with absolute honesty, my marriage wasn't one of sanctity.

Oh... but if we allow gay marriages then churches have to perform it? Really. Fuck me, that has to be true, cause you said it was. That is why the LDS church lets anyone get married in the temple. And they let woman hold the preisthood. That is why my parents church allows women to be pastors. Oh wait.... they don't? Well... they have to, cause of equality and all.

The end point of this is that we obviously haven't learned from our countries history. Equal rights do not mean different rights. So thanks LDS church and California for stripping citizens of their equal rights.

And the rally and protest on Friday....

It was fantastic. The turnout was triple what people thought it would be. There we stood; gay, straight, bi.... families, fathers, mothers, grandmothers, teenagers, single adults... all in agreement. My god loves all of us. My god doesn't discriminate. Keep your church out of our bedrooms. Equality will prevail.